Special Talks!

Special Talks!

“My husband and I have encouraged our daughter Taylor to come to us to talk about everything and anything. We encourage her to do so by saying “Let’s have a talk.” Sometimes our talks are about serious and important matters. Other times, we talk about silly things or topics that she wants to talk about […]

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Look What He Could Do with Just a Little Help!

Blessed with love and gratitude for volunteer giving, I am compelled to share this short story about why I must do more with special needs students.  

I volunteer every month at my grandson’s junior high school in a national program called D.O.G.S.  The program stands for Dad’s of Great Students.  Grandfathers can help out too and I love it.   In every class, I’m paired with teachers who are working so hard with kids with special needs.  The kids have a mix of ADHD, autism, behavioral issues, learning disabilities, or other special needs.     

One day last year, I was asked to work with Jordan who would take a math test the next day.  He was failing the class.  So off we went to a corner desk.  It didn’t take long to confirm that Jordan had no clue how to do the assigned work.  So I showed him again and again, trying different approaches, being positive, etc., but he still didn’t get it.  He looked so sad to be failing.  

Something else in his demeanor, however, suggested to me that this kid was very capable of learning.  So I wrote a few simpler problems on his dry erase board and he couldn’t solve those either.  And then I went back even further with even simpler problems.  Hey, he could do those just fine.  

Then, once I knew where he was, I moved forward and within just a few minutes, he could do those problems.   And in a second class with him on the same day, we continued our march with math problems of ever increasing complexity and he could learn!  The next day, he earned a B on the test.

Near the end of the second class, I asked Jordan why he was in this class.  He looked down and then around the classroom to see who might be listening and said, “I’m just not as smart as a lot of other kids.”  With absolute surety in my voice, I replied, “Jordan, that’s not right.  You’re just as able as most kids in this school.  You’re just behind where you should be.  We just need to catch you up.”  I will never forget the loving smile on his face and a renewed sense of confidence that I saw as he walked out of the room.  

Two months later, I was assigned to another special needs class where Jordan was present.  His teacher welcomed me back and said to the eight students that I was here today to coach someone on their science fair project.  Immediately, Jordan’s hand went up in the air, his body flew out of his seat, and he shouted, “I’ll go with him.”  There is no better reward.

This year, I will find more time and more people to provide regular support to these kids.  The children can benefit so much from a little extra time, encouragement, and love.  If you have a little time to give, consider helping a kid at school.

Ed Ekis

Founder of Parenting My Kids

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